My boyfriend and I kinda had a talk about this last night. He said he’s very aware of how white women look at him like he’s “not a man”. Like he’s less than a man. He notices when Japanese women drool over white men simply for their whiteness. This was the first time I heard him talk like this. I told him (for the thousandth time) about how men here treat me differently than they do white women. I am a forbidden sexual fantasy and less human, therefore less worthy of respect, than white women who I see treated as though they are the epitome of beauty.
He looked so upset and fed up.
I encountered this a bit in the beginning of my relationship. My boyfriend and i were fine and barely notice our differences, we never got together based on the fact that he was asian or i was white but when word got out old classmates made comments like “how the fuck did you manage to get a white girl?” or “you don’t deserve to have that kind of girl (a white one)” and the most common “congrats, i wish i had a white girlfriend.”
ALL of those comments came from boys of asian or middle eastern decent. And I will never say I am not privileged nor do I really understand, but to see this with my own eyes.. to watch these words flood in through photo comments and facebook messages.. Like his biggest achievement of his life was to date a white girl and that because he was asian he almost didn’t deserve it.. It was one of my first indications that there was something seriously wrong with society and how it idolizes whiteness.
I’ve witnessed such an opposite effect. I’m white and I have never heard or seen anyone tell my boyfriend that he’s lucky he snagged a white girl. He’s Afro-Colombian (please keep your ignorant race comments to yourself because YES there is such a thing as Afro-Colombian / Afro-Latino) and I only ever hear my white guy friends and black guy friends talk about how lucky other guys are for landing a Latin woman. So this is new to me.
what if every Tumblr user suddenly looses their mouse?
J = Next Post
K = Previous Post
L = Like
N = View Notes
Space = Show Photo
Shift + R = Reblog
Shift + E = Add to Queue
Z + Tab = Switch Blogs
THIS CHANGES EVERYTHING.
I just reblogged this with the command, shit